Woman's Future InLaws Are 'Fuming' Over How She and Her Fiancé Told Them About Their Engagement: 'Ruined This Memory' Erin ClackSeptember 11, 2025 at 4:45 AM 7 Getty Upset inlaws (stock image) A woman shared on Reddit that her future inlaws are "fuming" over how she and her fiancé told them about th...
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Erin ClackSeptember 11, 2025 at 4:45 AM
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A woman shared on Reddit that her future in-laws are "fuming" over how she and her fiancé told them about their engagement
"They said we didn't take their feelings into consideration and massively disrespected them," the bride-to-be wrote
Now, her fiancé's mother "has threatened to cut all contact" with the couple due to the "immense pain" she says they caused her
A woman says her future in-laws are "fuming" and feel "like chopped liver" due to the way she and her fiancé told them about their engagement.
She detailed the drama in a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum, beginning by explaining that she got engaged a couple of weeks ago. The day after she and her fiancé picked up the ring together, they went to an event with her brother. They then heard that the bride-to-be's mother, who lives far away, would be in attendance and "figured this would be a good time" to tell her family the big news.
Knowing that her future mother-in-law "has a habit of blowing things up into arguments," the bride said, she and her fiancé decided to go to his parents' house to tell them that same day "to avoid them feeling like we treated my family and his family unequally." But as it turned out, the groom's father was at work, so the couple was only able to share the engagement news with the mother.
"She seemed very happy and congratulated us. We offered to call my bfs father to tell him as well, but his mother said that he was busy all day," the OP (original poster) wrote, noting that they said they would make a plan to tell the father in person soon.
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Later that night, however, the groom's mother called her son, told him she "couldn't keep the secret any longer" and asked for permission to tell her husband about the engagement. "We said sure go ahead. We thought this would be fine and then we would plan something later with the four of us to celebrate it," the OP recalled.
But then, the situation took a surprising turn. The next day, the OP claimed, her in-laws were "fuming."
"They said we treated them unequally and we didn't take their feelings into consideration and massively disrespected them. We only had one chance to tell them about it, and now we have ruined this memory forever," she wrote in her post. "Seeing each other's reactions was the most important thing about this and that we took this away from them. That the engagement news is more important than the actual wedding."
Her fiancé's father went so far as to say he felt "like chopped liver" over the way he was told of the engagement.
"We both acknowledged that we could have planned it better and apologized for that, but that ultimately the news was good and we didn't have any malicious intent and tried to keep it fair," the OP explained. "His mother is still furious and says that we are selfish, immature and had no empathy."
"She has threatened to cut all contact and has asked for space and time to process the immense pain we have caused her," the OP added, asking fellow Redditors to share their takes and advice on the dilemma.
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The majority of commenters agreed that the engaged couple were not in the wrong and that the in-laws were overreacting and being too sensitive.
"You shared happy news the best way you could with the time and circumstances you had. Their extreme reaction says more about them than about you," one person wrote. "You already apologized for not planning it better, which is more than enough. They're making a joyful moment about themselves, and that's unfair to you and your fiancé."
"Their reactions are ABSURD. Totally overblown, overdramatic and plain weird," someone else commented while noting, "Knowing what you know about them, it probably would have been better to find a way to tell both families at once or otherwise the same day at another time when you could have more control over the whole thing."
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Some readers even advised the OP to consider the potentially "crazy in-law situation" she could face once married.
"I hope your eyes are open to the family you're marrying into," one person wrote, while another said, "Be 100% sure you are ready for what that really means. This type of nonsense from [in-laws] is what wears on you over the years."
The latter person added, "If you don't resolve this while also creating a boundary, these in-laws will continue to make your lives about them."
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